I'm beginning to realize that this is a breeze. That in just a few short months Avery will be a normal five year old. Avery still has his leg, Avery still has a LOT of his foot, Avery is still our Avery, and Avery is BREATHING! So much more could have came out of this accident, and I thank God that this is it. So many more parents are dealing with much worse. Cancer in their children, heart defects, brain defects, even death, and our hearts go out to them. I bet they would do anything to trade that stuff for some lost toes. Words cannot express how full our hearts are after this. How we look at life differently and every small thing. People say to me all the time that i'm such a strong person. I'm no different than anyone else. You just get through it. The things that you do for your child... there is no limit.
Avery still has his foot and thigh covered, waiting for the last of his open wounds to heal up nicely. Then he will be able to try to walk. I'm a little concerned with how that is going to go due to his lack of wanting to even look at it. He has said to me before that he plans on using his walker forever. I just tell him "nope, we are getting rid of that soon, and you're going to be RUNNING!" So this is currently the battle that we are facing. A battle that yes, I have my concerns about, but not really too worried about it. It may be a struggle, but I KNOW that he will do it when the time comes. Because I know how strong Avery is. And I know he can conquer anything!
Let me tell you a totally AWESOME story.... One of my very good friends has a good friend that lost part of his foot in a lawn mower accident in his early twenties. He is now late twenties I think? Anyhow, he doesnt look old so I'll go with that. :) We have been emailing back and forth for awhile now, and he offered to bring his family up to Pentwater yesterday. Blew my mind!! Adam was nervous, but I wasnt. I knew that anyone willing to do something like that was a great person and we would have no awkwardness at all. We met at the beach and I was right. Great person. His wife and kids? Great too. He typed out two pages of notes for us to keep and reference through this journey. He wanted to show Avery how he is just a normal guy with half a foot. I feel incredibly confident now in the quality of Avery's life. He actually has more of his foot gone than Avery, and he does just fine. Any questions we had he answered with all honesty. The guy waterskis (BAREFOOT!!), snow skis, and pretty much can do anything he puts his mind to. What an inspiration! At first Avery did not want to look at his foot. Had he not had this happen, im sure it would have been no big deal, but I just think it scares him to know that his foot looks similar. That its not normal. After warming up to Andy (thats his name by the way), Adam and I kept catching Avery sneaking looks at his foot. And you could almost tell that gears were turning in his head. Like, "ok... hes fine. I will be too!" By the end of the beach time, Avery and Andy were chummy playing in the sand together. We met them at Gull Landing for dinner along with our friends Brian and Tera who introduced us, and finished up the night there.
There is a new confidence in Avery after seeing Andy. I love good people. Im incredibly thankful that he took time out of HIS life, and came into ours. I feel like such a sappy person after this. People are probably like, "Gawd shes so dramatic and sappy!" Well, I decided that I dont care. Ive never been one to show or express emotion, but this is life people. And its beautiful. And its short. And I dont care what people think anymore.
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